Attract Your Soulmate

GAPS Analysis to Attract Your Soul Mate NOW

admin — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 07:48:39 +0000

As a manager, supervising, mentoring or coaching his employees, my husband successfully uses a process he learned many years ago called GAPS Analysis.

For Soul Mate purposes, I modified the GAPS Analysis to fit your needs! In the following scenario, your EGO plays the role of supervisor, mentor, coach or… parent.

GAPS Analysis to attract a Soul Mate (or any goal really):

Goal – What is your goal? What exactly is it that you want?

Abilities – What is your current situation?

◦ What talents, skills – strengths – do you currently possess that enable you to achieve your goal?

◦ What talents, skills – improvement areas – do you realize that you need to develop to successfully achieve your goal?

Perceptions – How do others see your ability to achieve your goal? Specifically, for Soul Mate Attraction purposes, what does your EGO perceive as the GAP between your goal and the perceptive judgment of the cumulated database of past experience held in your unconscious mind? In other words, what beliefs do you hold that support or sabotage your ability to achieve your goal?
Strategy – What can and will you do to close the GAP? As mentioned in previous blogs, there are many strategies available – some permanent, others that are temporary at best.

When I first decided what an ideal Soul Mate looked like to me, then asked for him to show up in my life, I was totally impressed that one week later Mr. Perfect showed up! Interestingly, Mr. Perfect did not turn out to be Mr. Right forever, rather, he was Mr. Right for now – to teach me a lesson. Through that experience, I learned one more thing I did not want so I could add one more thing to my list that I do want. Very simply, I did not want someone who did drugs; I was very clear that what I want is a Soul Mate who is clean and sober.

The next Mr. Perfect turned out to be an incarnation of an aspect of my father that I hated, despised and I learned, deeply scarred me. Literally, as a child and my father’s daughter I had formed beliefs that “men could never be faithful”; “all men prefer 20 year old girls over a mature woman”; “no man is worthy of entrusting my heart to…” Can you see the incongruence?

I asked for an ideal soul mate; yet, unconsciously, I didn’t believe it was possible! As my father’s daughter and later, as a friend to a number of guys, I had stored countless volumes of data in the back of my mind – my unconscious – that supported the limiting belief that a soul mate experience absolutely positively would break my heart and could potentially even destroy my ability to ever enjoy life again as long as I lived… okay, I AM a bit melodramatic but then I truly am an emotional person who feels everything to the Nth degree.

Fortunately, I realized what was happening and discovered the process that I included in the free Master Mind Cleanse e-Guidebook that you received in yesterday’s blog.

It was enough clearing work to get me into my Ideal Soul Mate relationship which I remain in – happily – 15 years later.

If you did not pick up your free copy in yesterday’s blog, click this link and the Master Mind Cleanse Guidebook is yours instantly with minimal effort. It takes very little of your time and yet accelerates your time to attraction exponentially as well as increases sustainability – as in permanently removes barrier energy.

You will identify those emotions that either attract or repel your ideal soul mate relationship.
You will then have the opportunity to literally reframe or neutralize any negative emotional charges that become repelling energy.
You will shift negatives beliefs into positives, signaling to God and the Universe that you are ready to attract the most amazing, exciting, fulfilling and LOVING soul mate in your life NOW!

The Master Mind Cleanse Guidebook helps you discover what beliefs are hidden in your unconscious mind and leads you through how-to align them to your conscious mind’s wants and desires.

However, like peeling a cathartic onion, there always seems to be another layer! And, some beliefs are so stubborn and fixed that they take a bit extra work to resolve. Consequently, the book Belief Change – The Book was born.

Belief Change – The Book, available at Amazon.com (including on Kindle), Lulu.com and Barnes and Noble.com, contains the simple, 10-Step Belief Change Exercise contains the 10-Step Belief Change Exercise that helps you resolve stubborn limiting beliefs. The difficult ones that don’t shift easily. And if you are really lucky, this exercise can help you reach to the core and the whole onion disappears – forever!

Whichever belief reconciliation process you choose, you can be confident and certain that it is a strategy that will move you closer to realizing your dreams… permanently.

How will your life be different when the love of your life is in your life? We would love to hear from you in the comment section below.

Until next time, Namaste,

janet lee

Remove Barriers to Attract Your Soul Mate NOW

admin — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 15:01:09 +0000

Have you ever really, really, really wanted something but then when you got it you didn’t want it so much after all or worse yet, regretted getting it?

When you hear the cliché, “Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it.” What is the first memory that comes to your mind?

Or another one that goes, “Thank God for unanswered prayers!”

Sometimes this happens to help you discover what you like and want by learning what you dislike and do not want.

Other times, however, it is a matter of your unconscious and conscious minds out of alignment. When that happens it is difficult, if not impossible, to get what you consciously want because your unconscious mind puts out an energy that repels instead of attracts what you want. Then, if you do happen to attract what you want… you sabotage the joy and pleasure you were meant to gain.

The good news is that you can interrupt this pattern. Being the wise observer that notices this conflict acting out, you can take action immediately to resolve and align what you want with your beliefs. The Master Mind Cleanse Guidebook contains a simple 3-Step Resolution Process that helps you proactively surface limiting, barrier beliefs that prevent you from getting what you want and sabotaging the good things that come your way.

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· You will identify those emotions that either attract or repel your ideal soul mate relationship.

· You will then have the opportunity to literally reframe or neutralize any negative emotional charges that become repelling energy.

· You will shift negatives beliefs into positives, signaling to God and the Universe that you are ready to attract the most amazing, exciting, fulfilling and LOVING soul mate in your life NOW!

Following the globally popular release of The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, many people rushed out to create vision boards and ask their magic genie to make the Law of Attraction provide them with their heart’s greatest desire. Unfortunately, not everybody received what they asked for. Instead many people were disappointed, disillusioned and convinced that the Law of Attraction does not work – they thought it was all just a lot of woo-woo hype.

Truth is, just like gravity, the Law of Attraction does work, and it works every time. If the majority of beliefs in your unconscious mind data base convince your EGO that what you want is in some way bad for you… you attract not receiving it! Conversely, if the majority of beliefs agree with your conscious mind that what you want is good for you… you attract what you want quickly and easily.

The Master Mind Cleanse Guidebook helps you discover what beliefs are hidden in your unconscious mind and leads you through how-to align them to your conscious mind’s wants and desires.

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How will your life be different when the love of your life is in your life? We would love to hear from you in the comment section below.

Until next time, Namaste.

janet lee

A Gift for You: Jump Start Your Soul Mate Attraction

admin — Sun, 29 Aug 2010 02:56:44 +0000

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· You will symbolically signal to your mind, God and the Universe that you are ready for the most amazing, exciting, fulfilling and LOVING soul mate in your life NOW!

The first problem most people encounter when longing for the love of their life – their soul mate – is not knowing what to ask for.

The second is, literally, not asking. Oh people are great at announcing their discomfort pain and anguish, complaining but thoughtfully, intelligently and intentionally asking for exactly what you want requires thought, intelligence and intention.

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You will absolutely, positively accelerate the Law of Attraction’s activation to provide you with your ideal Soul Mate.

How will your life be different when the love of your life is in your life? We would love to hear from you in the comment section below.

Until next time, Namaste.

janet lee

The Soul Mate Love Saboteur

admin — Sat, 28 Aug 2010 16:07:00 +0000

“I’ve met the enemy and the enemy is me.” A cliché but nonetheless it carries an element of truth.

It is popular these days to blame the EGO, perceiving it as an evil villain determined to enslave and destroy your life. I have a different perspective on EGO.

I believe that everything God created has value and serves a purpose – including EGO.

In fact, I imagine two metaphors for EGO: one as an auto pilot similar to that which flies a plane and the other as a parent.

In the first, I imagine that it “runs our life show” until we gain mastery and assume the controls ourselves. This does not mean that once we gain mastery that there is never a time when EGO serves us. Which leads to the second metaphor – that of EGO as a parent.

Ideally, as adults we outgrow the need for a parent to run our life show. But, that does not mean there is no longer a valuable role for a parent in our life. What it does mean is that the role changes – evolves as we mature and our needs differ.

Stephen Covey teaches that as we move through life we advance through stages: we are born helpless and dependent, become independent then if all goes well, as adults we become interdependent – then, in our final stage of life, some of us become dependent again. Through each of these stages parents have different roles that enable their child to gain essential knowledge and skills to thrive in the next stage – always ”with the end in mind”: a capable, effective and contributing adult living a meaningful and fulfilled life.

Reality:

· Not everybody understands the process

· Not everybody understands their role in the process

· Not everybody evolves through the stages – some people get stuck (have you ever heard of the term co-dependent?)

Similarly:

· Not everybody understands how EGO fits into the process

· Not everybody even knows they have a role in the EGO evolution process so choose to destroy it or remain its dependent child

· Many people get stuck in the early stage and rebel against it

Different stages and roles implies different intentions and purposes; subsequently, different behaviors. Ideally, with a dependent infant the parent knows what nourishment the baby needs, as well as prepares and delivers it. Then, with the intention of teaching their child self-reliance they prepare their child for independence – this preparation is an evolutionary process not instantaneous, that also occurs in stages over time. Initially they have to teach their dependent baby the mechanics of feeding themselves – how to use the equipment, what to eat, when to eat, where to eat and even with whom to eat; then later down the life path (but NOT as much later as some parents might think), their independent adolescent or teen must be able to choose for themselves how to use the equipment, what to eat, when to eat, how to eat, where to eat, with whom to eat and even how to acquire and prepare what they eat. The reason it is critical that children gain this ability while still in the parent’s home is so that when they leave the nest, they are capable and competent caring for themselves which prepares them for interdependence. Once they get into a relationship and have to comprehend and consider the upbringing and preferences that another person brings into it, and when they have their own child or a group to consider, interdependence becomes a factor. With a helpless dependent baby a parent’s role is fairly clear cut and obvious; however, when the child reaches independence and later on in interdependence, the roles blur and become fodder for debate.

Ideally, as a child moves through independence the parent knows or notices what skills their child needs to succeed in the interdependent adult world then arranges training and opportunities to integrate essential skills – eventually, ideally, this includes practice which comprehends trial and error and most of us as loving parents resist allowing our children to fail. Clearly there are times when trial and error could prove deadly – like driving a car; consequently, we invented driving school and 600 hours of practice before receiving the coveted license to drive – brilliant concept. How would life be different if we provided training, practice and licenses to hold our first credit card or checking account, go on our first date, work our first job, parent our first child… Okay, I digress. The point remains, an ideal parent prepares their child for all of these adult roles and more and they prepare them with education and opportunities to practice – while the parent sits in the “co-pilot” seat providing feedback as their child practices being adult. A child needs to hear from their parent about what they observe their child doing right, what they aren’t doing right and what might or must be done differently to get it right or they will receive feedback the hard way from financial challenges, career setbacks, broken relationship, health problems, etc.

Unfortunately, just as parents don’t always know or understand their role in this growing up process; many children rebel against being taught or coached.

And, that leads us to how the role of a parent is a good metaphor for EGO. EGO’s function when we are dependent little spirits being human is survival. It tells us “don’t touch that burner it will burn you” or “don’t stand in front of that oncoming train it will kill you.” Just like a new parent, what it knows about how to protect you comes from a data base in your unconscious mind, filled with what you & it learned from trial and error or the books you read, movies you watched and what parents, teachers, friends, etc. told you. However, if you don’t know or understand its role or the source of its information, which ultimately, at the point of mastery/interdependence, becomes nothing more than advice that you can consider and choose to use or lose… if you don’t know or understand this, you become its dependent child forever.

How does this relate to either soul mate relationship sabotage or attraction? If your unconscious database is filled with more horror stories of ugly divorce, abuse or unfaithfulness and all the pain, anguish and misery they caused than there are loving, kind and mutually fulfilling experiences, judgments or memories; then, in spite of your conscious desire and intention to attract or enjoy a soul mate relationship your EGO says “don’t touch that burner it will burn you!” You, literally, will repel the love of your life; your EGO, to protect and serve you, finds evidence to support or agree with its negative judgment and opinion.

Conversely, if your unconscious database is filled with more positive, loving, kind and mutually fulfilling experiences, judgments and memories; then, you quickly attract and enjoy a soul mate relationship. Your EGO, the well-intentioned parent that it is wants you to have all things good, pleasant and beneficial; so, no barrier energy – attracting energy prevails.

Once you understand that it is EGO’s God given role to evaluate the information contained in your mental data base and offer its educated opinion; then, you can determine if that opinion is relevant given the current experience, your present more mature perspective and choose to follow EGO’s advice or not. Sometimes it will be right; other times its opinion will be clouded by the intensity of the emotion attached to the information stored in your mental database.

Fortunately, when you attain mastery, you naturally become an observer and can swing the balance to suit your wishes and desires. If your mental database is weighted heavy on the soul mate relationship equals danger, don’t do it side – invisible, but powerful, negative, repelling energy emanates from your essence; however, you can shift the weight to an invisible, but powerful, positive, attracting energy in many ways, some temporary and less effective than others. You can:

· Add in positive evidence that your specific goal or intention – an ideal soul mate - can also be a good, safe, desirable experience and here’s how…

· Create vision boards, meditative visualizations, etc…

· Recite affirmations and undergo other reframing techniques learned through NLP, Holographic Repatterning, etc…

· Evaluate the information stored in the database of your unconscious mind to learn if it is true, false or can be modified favorably – The 10-Step Belief Change Exercise is a valuable tool that you can use in the privacy of your own home, at your own speed, to effectively and permanently resolve negative, limiting and sabotaging beliefs surfaced.

It might sound painful, uncomfortable and downright inconvenient; however, resolving the contents of your unconscious mind and aligning it with your goal and intention is a meaningful and purposeful process. The Zuk Paradox says that any time you set a goal or intention – such as I want to attract my ideal soul mate relationship – then everything stored in your unconscious mind’s database that opposes that goal or intention will come to the surface for you to resolve. Not only is incongruence self-sabotaging; it impedes your ability to enjoy the experience of having what you want! Your EGO, like any good parent, helps you succeed with resolution and alignment. A good child works with the process and ultimately becomes an effective, successful master of his or herself! The Belief Change Exercise helps you work with your EGO to accomplish that goal.

For more insight on how to shift the balance favorably to attract your ideal soul mate relationship or to keep your soul mate love alive and flourishing, the book Belief Change – The Book, available at Amazon.com (including on Kindle), Lulu.com , ebook download and Barnes and Noble.com, contains the simple, 10-Step Belief Change Exercise.

In this book you will identify sabotaging, limiting beliefs and shift them to support and enable your goals and intentions.

What barrier beliefs stand between you and what you want to attract? How are you dissolving those barriers? We would love to hear from you in the comment section below.

Until next time, Namaste.

janet lee

With Soul Mate Love – Everyday is Valentine’s Day

admin — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 13:35:19 +0000

What is the difference between being stuck in a relationship and choosing to be in a relationship?

As Tiger Woods said yesterday, “no one goes into a marriage planning to divorce.” So, where do people get the idea that once married and committed they no longer need to court and attract their spouse? Why would anyone think it is no longer necessary to do the things they did while dating – and even more – just because they said “I do”?

How do we define “love, honor and cherish”?

Perhaps it would be a good idea to agree ahead of time on what “love, honor and cherish” looks, feels and sounds like when work keeps you past 5pm or the baby cries every two hours or the kid’s multitude of extracurricular activities pull you in two different directions.

Remembering those times when you dated are special memories and anchors to the good stuff but life’s circumstances and conditions evolve, change over time – how can you weather those changes while growing better together than apart?

One way to potentially weather life’s storms is to anticipate the different life changes you will face together as a married couple and plan “safety net” intervention type of activities. For example, Tony Robbins teaches couples to have a phrase that signals “time-out”, let’s look rationally at what’s going on here! Typically, when you take this “time-out”, one or preferably both of you, detaches from the emotion of the event and is able to facilitate a positive outcome. My favorite way remains the “Life Long Date” or every day is Valentine’s Day. Stephen Covey advises us to literally schedule in those moments and methods when you communicate to the loved ones in your life – your soul mate – exactly how special and important they are to you. Flowers, gifts and night out at the movies are nice once in a while, but what about every day? My husband and I enjoy reminiscing about memorable moments or events in the evolution of our relationship; memories that bring back all the emotion we felt at the time. Sometimes we sit and listen to meaningful songs or, when we are apart, an SMS or email message with the words to one of our songs or code words we made up, lets the other know, “I’m thinking of you.” Most importantly, we continue to make new memories.

A friend recently gave us a wonderful complement. She said, “you don’t act like a couple married XX years; you act like a couple married 1 year.”

For more insight on how to keep your soul mate love alive and flourishing, the book Life and Love Extraordinaire, available at Amazon.com (including on Kindle) and Barnes and Noble.com, contains 100 inspiring soul mate stories. Tales of loves gained and lost, where and how they fell in love, in the words of the soul mates themselves. Their stories provide hints and clues but most importantly they inspire hope.

In this book you will also discover helpful hints, not only how-to attract the love of your life into your life, but also how-to keep your soul mate love alive. To activate the Law of Attraction, we introduce the concept of making a list of the characteristics you desire in your soul mate relationship. Then, once you are enjoying the love of your life in your life, to keep your soul mate relationship alive, dynamic and fulfilling, we introduce a lifelong date: that is, each day finding ways to win and renew your soul mate’s love.

What do you think of the Life Long Date Concept or Everyday is Valentine’s Day? How do you and your soul mate manage to keep your love alive? We would love to hear from you in the comment section below.

Until next time, Namaste.

janet lee

Encouraging & Inspiring Soul Mate Attraction

admin — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 03:58:57 +0000

Because the road to the altar is not always red carpet and rose petals it can be helpful and inspirational to learn of the hurdles others’ faced and how they overcame them.

The book Life and Love Extraordinaire, available at Amazon.com (including on Kindle) and Barnes and Noble.com, contains 100 inspiring soul mate stories. Tales of loves gained and lost, where and how they fell in love, in the words of the soul mates themselves. Their stories provide hints and clues but most importantly they inspire hope.

When you least expect it and sometimes, when all hope is gone, your ideal soul mate love appears. In the mean time, share the joys and tears of 100 soul mates, in their own words, as told in the best selling Life & Love Extraordinaire.

What barriers stand between you and what you want to attract? How are you dissolving those barriers? We would love to hear from you in the comment section below.

Until next time, Namaste.

janet lee

Soul Mate Attraction – A True Story

admin — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 07:06:57 +0000

The road to the altar is not always red carpet and rose petals. For those who embrace challenges and obstacles the foundation is strengthened and the resulting bond becomes nearly unbreakable.

So it was for my friend and counseling opportunity early in my career.

David (named changed to protect the “guilty”) and I worked together in a large corporation. Daily I heard stories of his vacillating love/fear relationship with an unsuspecting fiancé, Rhonda, who attended medical school in a city four hours away.

As the date approached, his anxiety peaked and one day he announced that it would be best for both of them if he ended it now rather than face the nasty divorce he imagined was inevitable.

Not yet trained in counseling, I nonetheless decided to see if I could help him find peace. I knew that emotion is a clue to something from the past that haunts today and that a lot of times, once you identify the belief

From previous conversations it was clear that he feared losing himself – his identity – and losing his freedom – he had an active single, social life. He seemed pulled in two opposite directions – he wanted the promise of love, romance, family and he imagined that meant he would be required to change a lifestyle he loved and enjoyed. He also imagined that he would be required to trade fun, excitement and adventure for a lifestyle of responsibility, boredom and drudgery.

Long story short, with this young man in mind I pursued a psychology degree deciding that if I were going to be counseling, I had better do it intelligently. He also was an inspiration for the Belief Change – The Book, book.

We stumbled through identifying several sources of his negative image of marriage and family life. We revisited them through more mature eyes and understandings; he was able to see many more possibilities. Most importantly we discovered that responsibility, boredom and drudgery existed in his single life, may well be in the cards for his married life, but there could and would be opportunities for fun, excitement and adventure as well. Finally, we figured out that making plans for the future with Rhonda, talking through what was important to each of them about their married life, cleared the air and renewed their commitment to make their relationship work.

janet lee

Belief Change –The Book, available at Amazon.com (also available for Kindle download), Lulu.com and Barnes & Noble.com contains the famous 10 step Belief Change Exercise (BCE) that proactively, in the privacy of your own home, surfaces beliefs that sabotage your hopes and dreams of attracting an ideal soul mate, career, home… with the negative energy resolved, what you want to attract comes to you quickly, easily and naturally.

What barriers stand between you and what you want to attract? How are you dissolving those barriers?

Until next time, Namaste,

You Asked to Attract Your Soul Mate – Now What?

admin — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 10:12:32 +0000

You asked for your ideal soul mate, now what?

Notice who shows up and especially notice how you feel about him or her!

If you are like most human beings, as soon as you attract what you asked for, or for some people it is enough to just imagine you will attract your soul mate for the red flags to go up and sirens sound… in your head. What if I lose my freedom? What if they break my heart? What if they are_____ dishonest, lazy, abusive, unfaithful… fill in the blank with any and every fear you ever heard or held in the back of your mind because your soul mate relationship will surface them all; that is their job!

The Zuk Paradox states that any and every time you set a goal or intention, any and every conflicting thought or belief in your conscious or unconscious mind, that opposes what you ask for, will come to the surface to be reconciled. It works on any request: soul mates, money, careers, jobs… it is part of God’s grand design!

Some people call it the “self-saboteur”; that is one way to look at it but may not be the most effective way to approach it if you really want to get and keep what you want. The Zuk Paradox is actually designed and intended to help you enjoy and succeed with the soul mate, goal or wish you attract.

Once you reconcile or literally neutralize a limiting belief’s effect on you, you are free of it. Typically this allows peace, harmony and pleasure to characterize your experience. If this energy has been sufficient to block you from receiving your requested soul mate relationship; once neutralized the soul mate shows up instantly.

What’s the next step? Now that you asked for your ideal soul mate to manifest, think about the effect a soul mate will make to your life, notice what you feel. Recognize and analyze your emotions, trace them back to the belief that triggered them and voila, you will have the clue to solving the mystery of why can’t I attract or keep my ideal soul mate relationship!

Most, but not all, people are able to overlook or suppress their fearful feelings and beliefs through the wooing and dating stage, but at some point they will surface. Evidence is the divorce rate, and even more terrifying, the numbers of marriages where spouses find a comfort zone but actually live lives bordering on misery as they remain in an unfulfilling for the kids or appearances or lack of something better…

There is a better way!

Because you are reading this you are now aware of the Zuk Paradox and can proactively surface your fears for reconciliation. But do you know how-to reconcile these limiting, fearful beliefs?

Belief Change –The Book, available at Amazon.com (also available for Kindle download), Lulu.com and Barnes & Noble.com contains a simple, easy to follow process that walks you through surfacing those sabotaging beliefs and how-to reconcile them.

“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek and ye shall find; knock and it shall be opened unto you. For everyone that asketh receiveth, and he that seeketh findeth, and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.” Matthew 7:7 & 8 is a promise. Once you ask for your ideal soul mate, the Universe and God always provide, notice what shows up. If there is a barrier – if it seems your request has gone unanswered – it is not “God’s denial”; it comes from your unconscious mind and all those beliefs you have about what impact your soul mate will have on your life. Learn what they are and you regain control of your soul mate destiny.

Order your copy of Belief Change – The Book today!

Namaste & blessings,

janet lee